Now, before I ask you about the topic, let me just tell you my views on it.
First, let's start by looking for the disadvantages and advantages of one-sided love.
They say, "Love is a give and take relationship.", but sometimes, it doesn't appear to be that way. People who love unconditionally are selfless that's why when they are left by people they truly love, they are so broken it's hard for them to stand back up but eventually they do...after a long period of time. And when they finally get back up, they are much stronger.
In a one-sided love relationship, you give your best efforts hoping that he/she will feel the same way as time goes by but nothing happens. It's like waiting for the sky to turn red. However, there are instances that it may happen but it will probably be too late.
My friend (the one with the problem), she has been in love with this guy for a long time. She claims that he is her "dream love". They eventually became really close, going out together to the point of her buying stuffs for him... until one day he disappears. No communication. Nothing.
I understand it must be devastating and depressing having lost someone you love not merely because of death but by sudden disappearance. She understood he has his reasons for not staying. She understood it was for his family, but no communication? It really bothers her.
But as I always tell my friends, even if we give good advises, they are still the ones to decide because it's their life. We, as friends, just need to support them in their decisions unless of course if it's really the wrong thing that they want to do, that's our role.
So, I told her it's not wrong to love someone who doesn't love you back because even though you often get hurt, you know that you are capable to love. She can choose to fight and stay for her feelings and she can choose to give up and move on. It's her choice. Then I hugged her. She was crying. I couldn't do anything to make her pain go away because I believe that the pain remains unless the person who caused it takes it away himself. I also told her to forgive the guy for what he did, although it was wrong, they never had commitment, they were just friends, so I don't see the point on why he had to explain himself to her but okay, she's in love with this guy and she cherished the moments that they had so I guess he could have just said something.
Anyways, and then I told her to also forgive herself for being selfless. She loves this guy so much she doesn't even have time for herself. So, I made sure she heard me saying "Love yourself first before you love somebody else. You cannot love someone fully, unless you know how to love yourself. Maybe one day, when he comes back and sees how you've changed, he'll regret leaving."
One-sided love can be tough but it can also make you stronger. It can cause you much pain but it can also give you lessons in life. It's sad but the truth is, all relationships are only one-sided. Want to know why? I'll tell you next post. Haha! This post is too long already so gotta go! :)